Nothing - and I mean NOTHING - is working out so far with our wedding plans. I feel like I've put a lot of brainpower and effort into nailing down some details this week and its all for nothing.
It all started with the annoying realization that our number one reception venue isn't going to work. It's too expensive, doesn't allow hard alcohol (important to us because we - and our friends and family - like mixed drinks) and just didn't seem willing to work with us.
After that knowledge we regrouped. My mom and I brainstormed other ideas and I have been systematically working through those only to have them fall through.
We have chosen to get married in Hermann, Mo., a historic German town of around 3,000 people. It's very quaint, in the heart of Missouri wine country, and should be a lot of fun for our guests, but our venue options aren't exactly overflowing.
After the first place wouldn't work we thought, how about a bed and breakfast? There is essentially market saturation for B&Bs in Hermann. My parents know many B&B owners so we considered their places and places where you can rent the entire house. We could hire catering, save money and cute up our table settings with fun, mismatched flea market finds on dishes and silverware (something that would be very me anyway), and have whatever alcohol we wanted.
We thought this could be a nice, comfy option, but we also know we want dancing, so there'd probably have to be a tent. I called a party company that rents tents and every other party component you could think of. While they were very nice and helpful they were also very expensive, something I expected, but had a fleeting hope would somehow work out. It's won't. B&Bs are out.
The next idea, the Bank Bar downtown, a nice, classy place that has a full bar, nice patio for an indoor/outdoor option, and a second room for dinner - it all sounded hopeful. My parents know the owners so I called them up to chat. She could do it, she said, but her place only holds 99 people and we think we may be over that.
Next, a place called the Concert Hall downtown. I've been in the bar and restaurant area downstairs, but apparently there's an upstairs too. I called them and he was very happy to work with us. They can fit all of our guests and have a full bar. The only thing is, he was supposed to send me a catering menu and photos of the upstairs and I haven't heard anything. I want to see what that upstairs looks like because I do NOT want our reception to be in a divy bar - as much as I typically love divy bars. So, I guess this is technically still an option.
I called another of the wineries in town and they were more expensive than our first choice venue and also don't allow hard alcohol. Out.
The next option is a refurbished brick place in an adjoining "town" that my mom says is nice. The only problem is: the adjoining community is a DUMP. People would have to drive through the country version of the projects to get to the venue. I've told Todd I'm too the point where I'm not sure if I care. As long as the end location is good what difference does it make if the drive in is ugly? I'm not sure it does.
And the cute idea of mismatched plates? Nearly out the window too. I looked online at eBay and all the plates I like are basically $50 for ONE place setting. Like, for ONE person.
I may start drinking that hard alcohol right now. :)